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Earlier this month I had the privilege of spending some time with Mark Nepo, the man Oprah Winfrey has called one of the greatest spiritual teachers of our time. In reflecting on his personal journey over the past three years, which, due to the support of Oprah, has been pretty meteoric in nature, he told me, “I’m just so glad…

This past weekend I attended a conference in San Diego. It was a much-needed opportunity to get of my environment, and off of autopilot. I went away to work on my business (as opposed to in my business), a perspective shift that gave me space to think about the big picture—where I’m going, what I want, and where I could…

Every time I go to a book reading for memoir, the question of what’s “true” invariably surfaces in one form or another. It’s generally posed by another aspiring memoirist in the audience who wants to know how to handle their own struggle with memory, or desire or need to protect someone in their family, or fear of getting sued. Due…

On Christmas Eve I walked into my yoga studio with the sort of set determination I had around my writing practice back when I was trying to finish my book. I wasn’t super excited to be there, but it had been three weeks since I’d gone. I knew I needed to go back, and the congress in my head was…

This Friday, August 17, Linda Joy Myers of the National Association of Memoir Writers (NAMW) and I are presenting a teleseminar all about the “muddy middle,” a term Linda Joy coined to describe that sticky, boggy middle place many writers know well. You know you’ve reached the muddy middle when your enthusiasm for your project begins to wane. Where you…

The desire to write is a strong pull. Anyone who’s written a book or is currently writing a book knows intimately the power writing can wield over us. As much as we want it and love it, our writing can start to feel like a “should,” and a little bit like a spurned lover when we’re not giving it our…

There’s an exercise I do with clients that I got from Tsultrim Allione, author of Feeding Your Demons. The exercise is more or less a guided meditation that encourages people to give characteristics to their saboteur (demon). The point is to give form to your saboteur—to determine its shape, smell, size, color, and even to name it. Over years of…

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